How to Be Happier By Mastering Your Habits with Gretchen Rubin

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Are you happy?

Happiness expert, Gretchen Rubin, author of bestselling book, The Happiness Project, believes it is our habits that determine the answer to this question.

Her passion in life is finding out what drives people. Why do we do what we do?

Human behavior is certainly a complex subject, but in today’s podcast Gretchen reveals to us some of the key principles in what drives our behavior and ultimately leads to a happy or unsatisfying life.

If you search “good habits” on the Internet, you will find many people telling you exactly what to do and when to do it. Gretchen found through her research and years of experience that there is not one simple recipe for happiness that works for everyone.

The most important step to achieving happiness and greatness in life is first and foremost understanding your personality, and then adopting habits that align well with both your goals and your character.

On today’s episode Gretchen shares with us the ‘four tendencies framework’. She discovered this insight and shared it in The Happiness Project to help people better understand themselves and why certain habits work for them and others work against them.

The four tendencies are:

  • Upholders – respond readily to outer and inner expectations
  • Questioners – question all expectations; they’ll meet an expectation if they think it makes sense–essentially, they make all expectations into inner expectations
  • Obligers – meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet expectations they impose on themselves
  • Rebels – resist all expectations, outer and inner alike

In this episode she goes in to depth about all four tendencies and the pros and cons of each, and how to be happier in our lives.

What you will learn

  • Two easy habits to transform your life (Sleep/Exercise)
  • Which habits to form and strategies to stick to them
  • The four tendencies framework and how it applies to you.
  • How expectations define who we are.

Topics discussed

  • Habit forming
  • Happiness
  • Psychology

Take Gretchen’s Four Tendencies Quiz By Clicking Here

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Over to you

What were your top lessons from this episode?
Which of the four tendencies do you fall in? Share with us below!


1 Comment

  • Hey Sean, I'll check out your interview with Gretchen. I like the 4 tendencies she shares about and knowing the pros and cons of them would be handy for better self awareness. Gretchen's insights would be in useful when dealing with other people to know how they work most effectively.

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